Is Anyone Listening?
Am I the only person who has lost a family member and just can’t seem to get through the grief of that loss? Is my family the only family that finds it cannot function the same any more because we lost a loved one? Don’t any of the other families who lost a husband, wife, brother, sister, son, daughter, father, mother, nephew, niece, boyfriend, girlfriend, …, feel like the pain of loss will never end? Don’t any of the other families who have lost a loved one find they are unable to talk to one another like before that loved one died? Don’t any of the other families feel like things will never feel the same again?
As you watch your loved ones family go through the motions of adjusting to their loss, don’t any others out there find themselves left with struggling to adjust to the new people who come into their lives? Do you feel resentful your loved ones family is going on with its life without him or her even though you know they still feel the pain of loss? Are others of you afraid that this new life will no longer have room for your family? As a parent or grandparent, do you feel afraid that you will never see your loved ones kids again if you don’t walk on eggshells around your loved ones immediate family?
Do any others of you feel that you are no longer welcome in your loved ones family or feel uncomfortable because you feel you no longer have any family rights. Do you feel that your life has been left in limbo because you do not know how or what you can or can’t do with respect to helping your loved ones family? Do you feel like they too are slowly slipping away and another enormous gap will left behind and there is nothing you can say or do to prevent the gap or hole?
Don’t any of you other families feel like a whole family once existed and now all that is left behind is a family of dominoes that just continues to crumble as you struggle to survive your loss? Don’t any of you other families feel as though all you have left are your conversations and visits to the marked grave of your loved ones because conversation and visits with the family you once had no longer exists?
As you listen here at home to the daily news on the war, the national politics, and, the rantings of those on the left, do you find yourself wanting to ask, “did my loved one die for nothing?” Do you find your family also divided along the same lines as those daily voices that assault your senses through the media? Do you find yourself wondering if your lost loved one would be ashamed at this state of affairs of your own family and your own nation?
As a veteran, family member of a veteran, family member of a lost veteran, or veteran supporter, do you find the words, “Never again!” constantly on the tip of your tongue and wonder if again another generation of veterans and loved ones have died, another generation of veteran families have been shattered all for naught because a small group of people, with the money and the means, are again trying destroy all our loved ones died for on behalf of America?
As you struggle to save what is left of your family, do you find yourself overwhelmed by a deep seething anger over the fact that you are left with so much grief, pain, and loss, and that again, it all may have been for nothing? Do you other families out there who have lost a loved one feel as though your life has become filled with a deep seated “fear” every waking moment that leaves you feeling helpless to prevent this outcome? Do any of you other families out there who have lost a loved one ever wonder how can I go on? Why should I even care? Why do I feel so isolated? Can anyone out there hear me? Is anyone listening?