Cheating Significant others in the Military
Again, no topic comes up more often than cheating spouses, or significant others. I am surprised that this topic takes precedent over all other topics. This isn’t a new phenomenon. During all past wars, cheating occurred from all the reading I have done. We could go on and on about who cheats more! But what I think is more important is why.
I am not convinced that more cheating occurs in the military than in the civilian “world!” However, I do think it comes to the forefront more now because of the Internet and the Blogs. What I really want to know more about is why? Is it the same reason that civilians cheat, the adrenalin rush of the “forbidden?” Or is it due to the stress placed on our military men and women and their families? Are the support systems that are supposed to be in place inadequate? Is it the constant absence of one partner or the other whether deployed statesside or over seas? Is cheating more or less a problem during war?
I know when I served over thirty years ago, the military had a very strict policy about cheating! That policy was not a cure-all or total preventive measure. I do think that there is less cheating in an all volunteer Military as opposed to during a draft! I have my own ideas or thoughts about why the cheating occurs other than the fact that some men “and” women will cheat whether or not they are in the military. Some spouse back home is as likely to cheat as a deployed soldier. Why?
Without compromising your identity, can those who cheat give their reasons for cheating? Is cheating more of a concern for those back home or those deployed? I would like to hear more from you guys or gals, whether you are deployed or the one back home!
We are not going to come to any conclusions that will prevent cheating by some. Maybe we will find out something about why it happens. Maybe we will use some of this knowledge to help build better lines of communications which will help strengthen relationships so less cheating occurs.
So, what do you all say? Anyone out there willing to talk about why they cheat? What might have helped prevent you from cheating. What will it hurt?